Are you looking for your first toy and don’t know where to start? Many people encourage the use of adult toys because it promotes female empowerment. Plus, it allows women to explore their sexuality and experiment with various types of pleasure. So which toy should you choose first? Keep reading to learn about the best types of sex toys that will empower every woman!
Why Every Woman Should Exhibit Empowerment Even in Sexual Pleasure
When it comes to adult toys, many women might struggle to make the first step and get one. You could feel embarrassed to consider one or are perhaps worried about what your partner might think of them.
Luckily, times are changing rapidly. People are not as judgemental as they used to be. If you are considering a toy, you should know that the choice is only up to you. Nothing should stop you from exploring your sexuality and pleasure, not even yourself! Regardless of if you are fantasizing about massive dragon dildos or USB rechargeable bullet vibrators, you deserve anything that you crave!
But before we reveal the best sex toy types, we should mention that sexuality and toys are a significant aspect of women’s empowerment. Staying sex-positive and loving your body will raise your self-confidence. Women who are struggling with their orgasms are strongly advised to try toys. They can allow you to achieve much more intense orgasms and explore the nuances of your vagina. Plus, you can use them to see what type of orgasm is the one you most enjoy. If you’ve never had the opportunity to cum or even squirt from G-spot stimulation, the time is now! So let’s take a look at some of the best sex toys for women!
Firstly, dildos are often recommended as first-time toys. An excellent way to choose one is to consider what you’re going to use it for. As an example, beginners who are not so experienced with penetration will benefit from small, thin dildos and water-based lube. These toys can hit a specific spot inside your vagina and lead to intense orgasms with clitoral stimulation.
But if you are already experienced and are into the pressure created by full penetration, you should choose a bigger toy. In most cases, beginners should try a length of around four inches. Of course, if you prefer a bigger penis or toy, it’s your choice. Additionally, you don’t have to buy a dildo that resembles a real cock.
All in all, dildos can be fantastic for any type of penetration, as well as external stimulation. You can tease yourself with one during masturbation. And when you feel ready, you can slide the dildo inside and explore all sorts of sensations. Lots of women also use dildos for anal penetration or even for a simulated blowjob experience.
Rabbit vibrators are quite powerful, and you can use them to pleasure your clitoris and G-spot simultaneously. Because of this, they are some of the most popular toys for women.
Namely, a rabbit vibrator often has a rotating dildo. Plus, it has a clitoral stimulator on the shaft that offers multiple vibration patterns. That way, it can suit most women’s vaginal areas and bring waves of mind-blowing pleasure.
If you’ve already tried a smaller dildo or vibrator, you should move to the next level and experiment with a rabbit vibe. Due to its size and features, it is perhaps more common for masturbation and solo use. However, you could also use it with a partner or allow them to use it on you.
While anal sex used to be a shameful kink, it has become incredibly popular in recent years. Many women have started to love it because of the wide availability of toys for anal pleasure. Butt plugs, for example, are possibly the best toy for your booty.
With a silicone or stainless steel plug, you can stretch your anal muscles gently. You can use the anal plug on its own, or you can think of it as a toy that will help you train for bigger things. Either way, a butt plug will stimulate the nerves inside your bum. You can even use it to reach anal orgasm!
Additionally, the plug will allow you to explore the wonders of your backdoor while your pussy will always be available for other things. That means you can pop the plug inside and even try double penetration with a dildo or penis.
And if you are looking for something kinky, nipple clamps are a compact and incredibly hot toy. Clamps can put pressure on your nipples, which can suit many women who need a lot of breast stimulation to get off. You can clamp your nipples during foreplay, sex, or masturbation for an additional dose of pressure and kink.
What’s more, many clamps have a chain, rope, or even a collar attached to them. That is ideal for any girl who likes to explore BDSM.
Of course, since we’re living in the future, you can also find hands-free toys that can eat you out! These are high-quality toys that replicate the licking and sucking sensations of oral sex. Many of them use air pressure to create suction. Some can also include integrated G-spot massagers as well as a remote control. What’s more, these toys are incredibly compact, and you can even use them in public if that’s your thing.
When it comes to strap-ons, they can be a highly empowering toy. They can allow you to experience the control that a man has during sex. Plus, they can bring you closer to the sensation of having a penis. That could be incredibly hot in lesbian relationships, but you can even use them in any type of relationship. You can try a strap-on on your male partner if you wish to dominate him, for example. Many sex therapists actually recommend women to try that at least once to see what it’s like to be in charge. Many strap-ons also contain internal vibrators that will stimulate your clitoris at the same time.
Kegel Balls and Yoni Eggs
Lastly, this sex toy category is incredibly popular with women. If you’ve tried Kegels before, you should explore some of these toys since they allow you to gain better control over your internal muscles. Kegel balls can stay inside your vagina for a few hours. You can wear these body-safe balls or Yoni Eggs while walking and doing daily chores. They provide a sensation that is a bit different from regular Kegels, though.
Namely, the tight muscles of your vagina will automatically grip the ball after insertion. That way, you don’t have to focus on doing Kegels. You can allow your pussy to do the work instead! Plus, you can wear these toys during anal sex or anal play for additional stimulation.
So which of these toys sounded the best to you? Don’t hesitate and try one out today! To make it easy for you, you may browse through https://lovegasm.co/collections/sex-toys-for-women for a massive selection of quality sex toys for women. Have fun, and get ready for some of your strongest orgasms ever!
This year at AIGA’s Design Conference, industrial designer Ti Chang shared how she’s built her career around designing for social change, and how her luxury sex toy brand, Crave, applies thoughtful user experience research and elevated product aesthetics to reduce the stigma around sex and women’s sexuality. However, because vibrators are legally classified as novelty items, consumer products that cater to men’s sexual health are more accepted and promoted through mainstream media while companies associated with women’s pleasure face increased advertising restrictions on social media platforms, in magazines, and public spaces.
Even Reddit recently updated its advertising policies to exclude any “adult-oriented products and services” from running ads on their site; however, under the new regulations, “ads pertaining to products for the prevention of pregnancy and erectile dysfunction are permissible.” As Polly Rodriguez, CEO of Unbound, puts it, the emphasis placed on family planning versus women’s pleasure as integral to sexual health perpetuates the stigma associated with sex toys and female sexuality.
Last year a series of illustrated ads for Unbound were banned from running on New York’s MTA due to their “dissemination of indecent material to minors” and “public display of offensive sexual material.” More recently, Dame faced the same ad rejection notice from the MTA, despite the fact their ads didn’t feature nudity or any anatomically suggestive content. This is a stark contrast to the very phallocentric ads for erectile dysfunction services from telemedicine brand Hims, which were approved by the MTA.
Sextech company Lora DiCarlo has also experienced blatant gender discrimination when the tech trade show CES rescinded its Innovation Award for the Osé personal massager*. Administrators at CES and the Consumer Technology Association (CTA), which owns and produces CES, asserted that “entries deemed by CTA in their sole discretion to be immoral, obscene, indecent, profane, or not in keeping with CTA’s image will be disqualified.” In an open letter appearing on Lora DiCarlo’s website, the company says it was also barred from showcasing Osé or even exhibiting at CES 2019 even though, “a literal sex doll for men launched on the floor at CES in 2018 and a VR porn company exhibits there every year, allowing men to watch pornography in public as consumers walk by.”
These consistent accounts of gender bias and misogyny targeted at brands for women’s sexual health prompted the following discussion between several designers and entrepreneurs in the sex toy industry. In the conversation below, they talk about some of the challenges they face, as well as successful strategies for communicating their brands or products to a wider audience through advertising and branding.
Meet the participants:
Sarah Brown, director of marketing of Lora DiCarlo
Ti Chang, co-founder and VP of design at Crave
Alex Fine, CEO of Dame Products
Zoe Ligon, founder of Spectrum Boutique
Polly Rodriguez, CEO of Unbound
How is your company working to destigmatize women’s pleasure, and how are your products making the market more accessible to more consumers?
Ti Chang: At Crave, our focus is on cultural listening. This is a space that’s very sensitive and we as product and industrial designers never want to assume anything. So for us, listening to our customers is so important when designing experiences that matter to them. We tried to create an aspirational and accessible brand to help broaden its reach to include people of all bodies and genders.
Our vibrating necklace, Vesper, is an object you can use in private, but it also has a public presence when you wear it out as jewelry. One of the things that we heard as we talked to users was an overwhelming desire to talk openly about sex and pleasure. So our goal was to create a product that was specifically a conversation piece that allowed women to feel comfortable talking about topics that are typically stigmatized or seen as taboo.
Polly Rodriguez: The history of product design shows us that the people designing products are not always reflective of the end users. We take an empathetic approach to design at Unbound that works to encompass the diverse perspectives of our customers.
Alex Fine: At Dame we approach our products from a wellness perspective as a way of destigmatizing the sex toy buying experience. We want people to feel comfortable using our products and navigating our website.
Sarah Brown: The way that Lora DiCarlo approaches product development is very much from an anatomical standpoint. The reality is none of us have the same shoe size, body size, or body type. Our fingerprints are different. The vaginal canal and positioning of the clitoris are also completely different. When we’re building products, it’s very much data-driven and based on real people.
Zoe Ligon: Unlike the other folks in this discussion, I’m a retailer and I resell products at Spectrum designed by other people. I try to do my best to only work with brands that have a similarly aligned ethics value or are at least trying to do better. Even the pleasure industry, which I previously assumed was more progressive, has all the same hallmark issues of patriarchy and capitalism at the higher tiers. So it’s really just trying to form my own moral code and finding that balance and middle ground of how to conduct business ethically when you’re working in a broken system.
What strategies have been successful for you when branding your products?
Fine: Dame has a female-centered visual aesthetic. We wanted to represent a feminine experience that is womanly, not girly. We’ve had countless color discussions just on how to use pink in our products that is not stereotypical “sex toy pink.” When we first started out, we were really resistant to using the color at all. But we realized that we don’t want to completely say no to any color, even if it’s internalizing the patriarchy. Some people really love pink, so we were able to find nuances in the color that made our customers happy and still reflected the ethos of our company.
Chang: We don’t follow the traditional way of thinking about branding in terms of demographics because we have such a wide customer base. Instead, we just work hard to try to make the brand approachable and relatable to people of all ages.
Ligon: I agree. In my shop, I try to avoid selling products with branding that is overly gendered or not reflective of the diversity of my customers. Though sometimes they’ll love the use of a product even if the packaging is terrible, so I also have to think of the user experience outside of certain shortcomings of the branding.
“There’s no option here. We have to normalize sex and sexuality. We take profit and activism and put them on the same level of importance.”
Rodriguez: We tried to have a finger on the pulse of the broader political environment. We used to not be a political company, but when Donald Trump got elected and you had somebody that was caught on camera bragging about sexually assaulting women, we decided to change that.
When we created Area 69, a community-based rewards program that’s part of the Unbound brand, the visual narrative and aesthetic was reflective of what we were seeing in our audience. We focused on escapism and the desire to create your own world as opposed to living in this one, since I think a lot of us feel like every day we wake up and are like, how is this reality? We [at Unbound] also had our own personal experiences with shopping for toys and feeling like we didn’t relate to a lot of the packaging that was out there. And so it was important for us to explore the concept of defining your own world and your own experience. I think that’s a very good analogy for how we view sexuality more broadly.
Brown: Yes. When Lora DiCarlo was banned from CES, we very quickly realized the same thing that Polly is talking about; we found we could no longer afford to not be political in our personal lives. And what the leadership of the company decided was that this would be an activist brand. We and our investors all essentially said we see this as something that has to change. There’s no option here. We have to normalize sex and sexuality. So we took profit and activism and put them on the same level of importance. This is something that I think a lot of people up until recently didn’t think was necessarily a good idea, but we’re actually finding that it is. We’re not focusing on branding that appeals to one target demographic. The goal is to make everyone in the world more comfortable with their sexuality, with their body, with orgasms, and pleasure.
“There are a lot of investors who won’t even take a meeting with companies in this category. It’s considered a moral hazard.”
Getting funded as a sex toy company is notoriously difficult. What have your experiences been in terms of getting your companies off the ground?
Ligon: Unless you get lucky, it can be exceedingly difficult to start a sex toy company. I inherited enough money after my father passed away to start my own business, but the industry in general faces discrimination from places like banks and payment processors, and misogyny is still rampant even if it’s becoming more under the radar.
Rodriguez: When we were just starting to look for funding, one of the biggest points of feedback we would get is, “Oh, there’s not enough defensibility for what you’re doing.” Investors aren’t forthright about the real reason they don’t want to invest, which I think is ultimately that they don’t want to go to their partners and say, “I want to invest in this vibrator company.” And so there are a lot of investors who won’t even take a meeting with companies in this category. It’s considered a moral hazard. That makes the pool of VCs who are even willing to meet with you incredibly small. There’s a huge gender disparity in funding as only 2% of capital goes to women. I had over 300 rejections before I got to our first yes.
Chang: I live in San Francisco, which is a venture capital hotbed. For us, we didn’t go the VC route; we specifically sought out angel investors because it was more valuable to us to have 50 or 60 investors who would act as our advocates or evangelists. In this instance, the money that they give is fortunately not tied to organizations like the Catholic Foundation Endowment Fund, which would be morally opposed to our products.
Brown: We’ve also managed to keep ourselves fairly separate from VC money. However, we’ve gone through a lot of the same conversations that every woman in business does, which is basically having to justify why the company exists. We had a surprising amount of positive feedback and very strong support in the investment community. But the challenge is there not just with sex tech, but femtech overall. Everything that we want to do as businesspeople is questioned because we are women. Basically, women are asked “How are you going to avoid failing, whereas men are asked how do you want to succeed?”
Fine: Right, you get preventative questions versus promotional questions. Promotional questions might be, “Where do you want to be in five years? Tell me about your vision, your aspirations.” While preventative questions are “How are you going to protect your market shares? How are you going to mitigate your risks?” Research shows that women get asked these questions more frequently. And these could be asked by a male investor or female investor, that doesn’t matter; misogyny can come from any gender. Rather, it’s a bias towards how we speak to women. It’s really subtle, but as women entrepreneurs, I think we’ve all experienced that.
Chang: Speaking of subtle misogyny, especially pertaining to language, it seems like I’ve been repeatedly asked, “How did you end up in a sex toy industry?” Like I had no other option. Whereas men will be asked, “How did you break into the industry?” For us, raising money was actually the easy part. It’s been the marketing side of things—telling the world about our products through advertising and social media platforms—that’s been the most difficult.
“Basically, women are asked ‘How are you going to avoid failing, whereas men are asked how do you want to succeed?’”
Brown: The #MeToo movement has really given a voice to a lot of women who were silent before. And that includes women working in the tech world. What we were trying to fight against with CES is something that’s been around forever. Gender bias and misogyny continue to occur, and it’s happened to probably everybody in this discussion. When we got loud about the discrimination we faced we actually had so much support from every gender, every industry. They said just keep going, keep working. But despite the support, our industry faces massive problems with reaching our customers through social media. We’ve had Instagram coming out and saying they’ll demote content that they find to be inappropriate. Facebook was first, and now Reddit is essentially banning all our ads. It’s odd because it feels like the rest of society seems to be moving towards a more progressive future, and a yet lot of the tech world is moving backward with these new restrictive ad policies.
What are some effective methods for fighting the patriarchy within this space?
Fine: Keep making money. Honestly, when we talk about the #MeToo movement, I think we’re in a particularly precarious position because there’s the conversation as it pertains to our audience, and then there’s a conversation as it pertains to the people that sit at the head of a lot of these institutions. How do you get investors to pay attention to your ideas? How do you get banks to want to work with you? How do you get the MTA to change its mind when you jump through all their hoops and they still reject your ads?
We all try to communicate with our consumers through grassroots efforts because that’s a more authentic approach. Unfortunately what I’ve seen that actually ends up getting investors to change their minds about us is just realizing that they’re missing out on a financial opportunity. I wish it wasn’t this way. I wish people just did the right thing based on ethics and morals, but I do think proving to them that this is a viable market is ultimately the thing that will get them to pay attention and value our products and brands.
“It’s odd because it feels like the rest of society seems to be moving towards a more progressive future, and a yet lot of the tech world is moving backward with these new restrictive ad policies.”
Ligon: I feel like it’s a domino effect, too, because I hear payment processors saying, “We don’t think what you’re doing is wrong. We’re afraid that other people we work with will think that we’re not a good person to do business with if they find out we work with you.” It’s going to require a lot of people changing their minds all at once, not one at a time. And I do believe that we’re in this Trumpian culture of when you are confronted with something that makes you uncomfortable, you double down and threaten people with lawsuits in an effort to keep them silent instead, of talking about these things. So as long as there’s this continued threat with lawsuits and the people on top trying to scare everybody below them into submission and silence, it’s going to continue to be a challenge for companies like ours to grow.
Chang: We’re in a time when so much is changing. If we start showing up in luxury retailers or mainstream markets—your Bergdorf Goodmans, your Urban Outfitters—I think that will help to influence widespread acceptance of our industry.
“It’s going to require a lot of people changing their minds all at once, not one at a time.”
Brown: I look at the makeup of this panel as a microcosm for what we’re starting to see industry-wide, which is that more women and people of color with diverse career backgrounds are making these products. I do think that has an impact on the way the industry is viewed. It affects the types of products that are being made, and also affects the people who are actually receiving what we make. They’re embracing our products because of the way that we do our marketing and our branding, and because of the places where we’re actually able to sell and advertise sex toys. Being in these large mainstream retailers allows us to reach people who previously only thought vibrators were available in seedy places where the windows are blacked out. That new level of approachability has really helped reduce the stigma around buying and using our products.
Are you optimistic about the future of the sex toy industry?
Ligon: Despite the many challenges that come with running a sex company in the sex toy industry, I’m optimistic about the future. I’m really trying to integrate more sex education into my shop. I want it to be a resource area for people to find answers, separate from the e-commerce side. Currently, when people have sex questions, instead of sending them to sites like WebMD or the CDC, I send them to Scarleteen, which is designed to be a resource for teenagers. It’s great, but also doesn’t it say a lot that a teen sex resource website is more informative than government or mainstream medical sites? I’m trying to at least create a forum where people can have conversations with each other and not just look things up that have fear mongering and shame embedded in them—or end up stumbling upon porn for answers.
Brown: Over the last six years, I’ve seen a massive shift from where things were when I first got into this space. Just the sheer difference in the number of women, the number of LGBTQ+ people in higher level positions makes me very optimistic. Previously, you’d see only white straight cis men occupying the executive, CEO, and director levels of companies. And then at the store level and maybe the managerial level, you might see a woman or someone of color or LGBTQ+. But now we’re starting to see—across the board, in every industry—more women getting involved and more people of color starting businesses. And I think that shift is what’s going to propel the rest of us forward. I have a lot of hope for the future because of that.
I look at everybody in this discussion and I think that we’re going to be the ones who are helping to make the difference. We’re going to be the ones who are leading that. And I have a lot of confidence in that because I’ve seen what’s happened. I’ve seen what everybody here has done since they started their companies and it’s created a monumental cultural shift.
Chang: I agree with Sarah, the more diverse voices there are in this industry, the better we’ll all be for it. We’re all creating better work because of each other. My hope for the future is that all people can have better relationships with their bodies and have more information about how we touch and play and experience pleasure. Because all the technologies, all the designs, all the products in the world are not going to make much of a difference if we still think pleasure is shameful.
*Update: As of May 8, Lora DiCarlo was re-awarded the CES Robotics Innovation award and received an apology from CES. Within the same week, they also secured $2M in seed funding from both new and existing investors led by the Oregon Opportunity Zone Limited Partnership.
Saying you’re good in bed is like saying you’re a good cook. In order to make such a brazen assertion, you’d better be able to back those words up with cold-hard facts, or at least some unbiased third-party testimonials. We can talk a good game about our jump shot or our dancing abilities, and for many of us, there are some things we just know we’d be great at should the opportunity arise. Maybe it’s freestyling at Chance the Rapper-like levels, or creating an app that would blow everyone’s minds. Sometimes, all it takes is an idea, and the belief that others will love it as much as you do. So much great art and design has sprung from these concepts, from indie films to guitar pedals to sex toys.
Let’s presume that like most of the population, you do not already work in the sex toy industry. You’ve got a killer idea, but not the built-in infrastructure and industry contacts necessary to get things started. As the saying goes, you’ve never done this before. You may not exactly know how to make a sex toy, but you’re confident in your idea’s design and possible appeal. No sweat, friend. That fact actually puts you in pretty good company. Stories of outsiders who have broken into the industry and done quite well for themselves are numerous. We recently caught up with a few of them to give you a first hand look at what it’s really like, from conceptual design to manufacturing and marketing. It’s a fascinating blend of art and science, and like all good stories, well, it’s got a happy ending.
Step One: The Idea
Jakub Konik, founder of Lovely, had been working in the tech industry for nearly six years when he got the itch to do something different. “For quite some time,” Konik explains, “all the sex toys in the world had virtually no features besides vibrations.” Konik felt that sex toys were capable of their own digital evolution, taking a similar path as home and lifestyle products, becoming more interactive, helpful, and more elegantly designed. Someday, says Konik, they could become “as smart as all the other products in our lives, eventually bringing more value to their users.” Right from the start, he wanted to make something that couples could enjoy together.
Meanwhile, halfway across the world, David Yu, founder of what is now Svakom was having similar thoughts. He had spoken to groups of women about their own expectations when it came to adult toys, got the sense that something was missing from the market, and wanted to assuage that need.
Step Two: Assess Your Finances
Hey, the industry may be a bit nontraditional, but this is still a new business venture. Talk about money early and often. You’ve got to be comfortable looking your money in the eye and seeing what kind of runway you’re dealing with. So, how much cash will you actually need? Well, it depends. Konik spent his life savings on Lovely’s development and also launched an IndieGoGo campaign to supplement his funding. There is also the opportunity cost of creating a sex toy. Are you going to quit your job to devote all of your time to this? Do you have enough money to spend on a couple of round-trip flights to China? (We’ll get to that in a minute). These are some of the many important questions to figure out early on.
Step Three: Assemble Your Team
If you’re new to the sex toy business, it’s doubtful that you’ll just automatically know how to do everything yourself. Sure, it’s your great idea, but can you create models from plastic, organize focus groups, code a website, build a marketing plan and take decent commercial photos? It’s essential to tap on people you know and outsource when you need to. Konik brought a sexologist and an engineer on board at the very beginning. Right from the start, he also knew he wanted his product to be for couples, so what did he do? He reached out to some people he knew and trusted (it didn’t hurt that they were both industrial designers by day). They tested out dozens of couples’ toys that were already on the market and reported back to Konik what they liked.
And what do we mean when we say that this couple ‘tested out’ already-existing products? Well, exactly that. They had a lot of sex using dozens of different toys and gave Konik their opinions with brutal honesty. If you think you’d find these kinds of discussions awkward, you may be in the wrong business. This feedback helped mold and shape Konik’s final designs for what eventually became Lovely.
Step Four: Research and Prototyping
Konick’s idea was to have a ring, an ‘intimate wearable’ with an app, that would help couples enjoy their time in bed together even more. Picture what is commonly called a cock ring, made from ultra-soft material with special added intelligent features and a docking station that sits close by on the nightstand. That’s an easy thing to say, but how do you actually build it? Before you even break out the modeling clay or colored pencils, slow down for a minute. Consider creating mood boards to help you visualize what it is you want your sex toy to be. You can make boards that exemplify shape, color, texture, or even the feeling or emotion you want your customers to associate with your product. It’s a great way to set the tone for the long journey ahead of you.
After a few rounds of sketching, the Lovely team made all sorts of prototypes, starting with plasticine, then moved on to 3D printing, which was an especially helpful and cost-effective way to test assumptions and different kinds of shapes. As the design phase became more advanced, they moved on to silicone vacuum casting and compression moulding. This method yielded better results, but was definitely more complex and expensive. From his home base in Europe, Konik traveled around the continent to different factories, but he says they could not provide him with the quality that he really wanted. All that changed, however, when they went to China.
Roughly 80% of all sex toys are made in China; the factories are incredibly well equipped to create the necessary materials and get the silicone just right. In fact, medical-grade silicone is one of the more common materials used to make sex toys. This is because of FDA regulations within the United States regarding silicon that is manufactured to be used for medical purposes, and sex toys fall into this category, along with tubing, respiratory masks, and other simple medical devices. It’s a law you can’t really get around, and for good reason. All of Svakom’s toys are made from 100% medical-grade silicon, and for Konik and the Lovely team, the twenty-hour plane ride to Hong Kong was well worth it when he finally touched the first production sample that he was certain would be the one. “I knew we got it right,” Konik remembers. “It was smoother than my skin.”
Step Five: Test, Learn, Repeat
A crucial part of the process. After a sample run is created, Svakom sends about ten to fifteen samples out to reviewers. For the Svakom team, their Echo and Trista toys took an especially long time to get right because of the technology involved. And when that happens, you just have to keep testing. All kinds of factors can delay production, from faulty toy mechanics and silicone quality to simple manufacturing requirements. Sometimes it can take years, especially for the more complicated products. Yeah, you heard that right – get ready for a possibly very long haul.
Konik and the Lovely team again returned to the couples who were helping them through this trial-and-error process. Since Lovely is worn around the most tender part of the male anatomy, not only did the texture have to be perfect, but the silicon’s ability to stretch without compromising shape was essential. Cheaper materials would tear if pulled at too hard. In the end, they landed on a medical-grade silicone that was so soft and stretchy it could fit around the base of an eggplant, yet still stay where it needed to. There’s also the matter of Lovely’s electronic element. There’s as much technology packed into a Lovely as any fitness bracelet on the market. This meant sourcing components for the tiny circuit boards that fit inside the device, and going through half a dozen iterations to get the right shape.
Step Six: To Market, To Market
When Konik and the Lovely team first started out, every dollar was sunk into product developing, and they didn’t have anything left over for marketing. This didn’t end up being that big of a deal, as a lot of their advertising ended up coming from PR. Hey, sex is a popular topic, especially given the unique angle that Lovely was bringing to the table. Their marketing strategy ended up being very organic, with dozens of distributors and retailers from all over the world reaching out to them first. But sex is everywhere (especially online) so don’t rely on an already saturated market to naturally float you to the top.
Svakom’s marketing, on the other hand, is more targeted. They do a lot of online marketing across various channels such as Google Adwords and YouTube. As you’re probably aware, every kind of product gets reviewed by influencers on YouTube, from lipstick to potato chips, and as it turns out, sex toys are no exception. Svakom’s marketing team pays special attention to popular sex toy reviewers with a high number of followers, especially those who live in countries where their customer base already resides. They have had particular luck with the United States, Brazil, and Russia, especially given the more culturally open attitudes about sexuality in the latter two countries.
Then there’s trade shows. Svakom’s marketing team and B2B team advise getting into the trade show experience. There are sex toy industry trade shows in Shanghai, Germany, the United States, and elsewhere. These shows will give you an opportunity to catch up and network with all kinds of people, meet up with distributors, customers, and more. Be sure to bring gift boxes and free samples.
When you take a step back, it isn’t hard to see that the business of designing and building a sex toy is, well, a lot like other business ventures. Vision, risk, determination, finances, testing, execution, marketing – it’s all there. Be ready for setbacks, surprises, and (hopefully) celebrations. Getting the look and feel of your product exactly right is essential, and when it all comes together, it’s an absolute pleasure.
I was walking through the mall over the weekend and realized that the half-naked models that once graced the windows of Abercrombie & Fitch are now covered. Even Victoria is covering up her secret. BMW, who was known for using the sex appeal factor, is now more concerned with the curves on the car instead of on the woman. I can’t help but wonder, is the “sex sells” design falling out of style?
Since I can remember, the advertising industry has been using the “sex sells” strategy even to sell fast food. Sex was everywhere from the pages of a magazine to the banners of a website.
The earliest instance I can recall goes back to 1871 for the Pearl Tobacco brand. The company placed images of a naked maiden on every cover. The idea was to grab the attention of the consumer by using the shock factor. Sex in advertising was a way for many to fill their curiosity as it pertains to sexuality. As most know, back then the birds and bees was not a conversation that was had at the dinner table. Thus, leaving a wide opening for designers to move right in, not realizing the momentum it was about to take.
Since 1871, the “sex sells” theory has been a snowballing method. Throughout the years, many advertisements used sex appeal even when the product had nothing to do with sex itself. Even having grown up in the 90’s, I recall many of the music videos on MTV dripping with sex, while the song had nothing to do with it… I’m looking at you Miss Britney. In fact, since then many videos have been banned from Ciara to Madonna for it’s sexual content.
Now that the “sex sells” design has taken a lack of decorum, has this desensitized everyone in the modern day? Is it because people are more open about sex and their sexuality that these advertisements are now falling short with no shock value anymore? Could it possibly be that America has had about enough of sex being thrown in their face. Designers dealing with advertising might have to find a new source of inspiration.